Everyone is required to contribute towards the success of any relationship. What are you doing to help develop your friendship, for example? This is what many youths do not understand, especially girls.

Many have nothing to offer. It’s no surprise, therefore, they can’t remain in the relationship for over five years.

Many girls have complained to me after a split-up. They utter things such as: “He controlled me and left me. Without me, he could not have been where he is.”

Some have committed suicide. It is insane to commit suicide over a break-up.

The reason many don’t retain relationships is a lack of definition. They are like a headless chicken going nowhere. It is one of the biggest mistakes many singles make. In every relationship, you need to see where you are heading. Knowledge and purpose direct a relationship.

Take time to reflect before deciding to be in a relationship with anyone. This sets objectives for the affair. Upon acceptance, meet him to map the way forward. Many women believe bedding a man is all they can give. Because of that, they have turned into beggars. They ask for everything from make-up, airtime and sanitary pads.

No doubt they’re many break-ups. When was the last time you took your sweetheart out or bought him something? Many women are mere parasites.

It’s time you started using your brain and not legs. Develop yourself as a powerful woman, improve and find something to do. If there is no work, find a small business such as selling zibwente/zigege or water. With persistence, you can grow it. Some of you don’t need a man at your age; you need to further your education. Some men exploit and can get rid of you because you have nothing to offer. You can show him all sex styles, but if you present nothing, he can get rid of you!

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